How can I ask family members to move out without ruining our relationship?

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FiFi

I am currently seven mths pregnant, and have an eighteen month old son. I live in a three bedroom apartment with my husband. We both work, I will be finishing up soon to have baby number two and I am really looking forward to spending quality time at home with both of the babies after working full-time for the last few months.

My problem is this. My husband's sister and her boyfriend are living with us. We live in Australia, they are here on a 12 mth working visa.

When they were thinking about coming over, they asked if they could stay with us. We did say that they can stay as long as they like. I assumed that they would be looking for jobs straight away, going out, meeting people, travelling around to see the country etc. We have given them whatever we can, the spare room, I cooked for them for the first two weeks, I have given them my old car to drive around. We haven't asked them for anything.

So far, they have been here for five weeks, and have pretty much done nothing. They sit on the couch all day long, watching crappy daytime tv and using up our internet quota (we have had to increase our plan already). They don't clean, or cook a meal for us. They don't go anywhere apart from down to the shops. They don't contribute to the household in any way. They both smoke like chimneys, and they sit out in our back patio and smoke under the washing line with all my clean clothes on it. They haven't applied for a single job.

It is REALLY stressing me out. I get up at 5am every day to get ready for work, get my baby up and out to daycare. Its winter here now, so its cold and dark. I work all day, come home in peak hour traffic, and when I get home they are ALWAYS here, just sat in front of tv. I would usually put cartoons on for my toddler while I make dinner, but they are always watching stupid old sit coms. If I get his toys out and play with him (we play in the living room) they just sit there and I feel self conscious. They offer unsolicited parenting advice. The boyfriend distracts the baby when I am trying to get him to eat dinner, and plays really rough with him right before bedtime and gets him all riled up. When I have a day at home during the week, they seem to get annoyed that I am in the house, kids shows are on the tv and toys are everywhere. They just get really moody and stay in their room, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I can't let my toddler play out the back anymore because they are always out there smoking, and there are cigarette butts everywhere.

My husband knows how pissed off I am getting, we fight about it pretty much every day. But he thinks that its my fault for saying they could stay. His opinion is that we have made our bed.

I don't think I am going to be able to cope when the new baby comes. I have been working so hard so that we can afford for me to take a couple of years off now, and I have been looking forward to it so much.

I don't know what to do. They don't have anywhere else to go, they don't know anybody in this country. My husband doesn't like having them here, but he is not as stressed out about it as I am because I have to deal with the cleaning up and looking after the baby, so it doesn't affect him as much. Our bills are all going to be huge, they have everything turned on all day, and we are about to lose my income.

I find it really hard to say anything to them without sounding really confrontational. They both tend to get very defensive, and I get nervous and start talking too fast and blabbering and apologising.

What can I do?

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Yeah, you said they can stay. Now you say you've changed your mind. Helping out relatives is the right thing to do, as long as they don't use you and that is exactly what they are doing, but it's not like you haven't noticed. The way they behave is simply rude. They are lazy and now they've found someone to support that, great for them! This is a great deal of stress for a pregnant woman with an infant on her hand. Take responsibility for your benefit, tell them all to get their act together, your husband included, sorry. So you are seven months pregnant now? A good idea would be two give them a two month deadline to find jobs and a flat and to be out of your house when the new baby comes. They are young, I'm sure they can and will manage, if they really want to.

16 Month Old on Airplane?

Dezzys_Mom

Soon I am going to have to fly to Nevada to see my dad and his fiance, I have to bring along my daughter, who will be 18 months old by then. I am really nervous, even though it is only a 2 hour flight, I know my daughter will not be able to sit still for that long.
I have a couple questions..

1. What stuff for my toddler am I NOT ALLOWED to bring on the plane? (pack in the suitcase, carry on..ect..)

2. How can I keep her occupied during the flight?

3. What do I do if she throws a fit?

4. Should I bring a carseat? Where will she sit?

5. I cant bring any drinks or food for her, can I?

I know it probably will go way easier than I expect, but Im still nervous about it. Please help!

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1.) Here is a list of what you can an cannot bring both in your carry-on and checked bags, direct from the TSA website:
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/prohibited/permitted-prohibited-items.shtm

2.) Pack plenty of things to entertain your daughter. My children bring coloring books, a Doodle Pad, Leap Pads (+ booklets), & scrap paper. My daughter used to like to bring along a doodle bear & my son likes to bring along action figures. I found that a Rose Art kit is great! It has crayons, markers, coloring books & sheets, & stickers. http://www.megabrands.com/en/products/description.php?product_id=1031&brand_id=36&cat=4&age=
I take the contents out of the box & place them in a travel pack. Here is my sons:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jamie_hassen/2577667314/ - outside
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jamie_hassen/2577681352/ - inside

Let your child (I let mine start this at age one) pick out her own carry on bag & a few inexpensive toys that will be used only once you are on the plane. Be sure to pick out a few toys without her seeing so that she has an extra surprise when she opens her carry-on.

3.) Keep your calm and try to distract her with something to play with. You can also get up and walk the aisles with your daughter.

4.) Definitely bring her car seat - you will glad you did! Airlines offer bassinets for some (not all - usually just long-haul) flights. However, the number on board is limited and you are not guaranteed to get one. If you are unable to get one, then you will be holding your child in your lap for the entire flight.

If it is at all possible, I highly suggest you buy your child a seat. Many airlines offer half-price tickets so parents can be guaranteed that their child can travel in a CRS device. You should call your airline to ask for a discount and/or ask what the airline's policy is for using empty seats.

Here is a link where I talk about it's importance:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Al1UbRoXsX5ZhEr3KUq4cuzty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081020143755AAcr1Qs&show=7#profile-info-e9FRoo9gaa

5.) You are allowed to bring food and drinks for your daughter as well.

Liquid and powder formula, milk, juice, baby food, and water are allowed in quantities over 3oz (100ml). Here is a link that will give you all the details:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApaVhxxUaNiiEsDfths2ADjty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081002064751AAqUtKH&show=7#profile-info-Y3IuVmeiaa

Bring Snacks! Just add water packets of food, cheerios, pretzels, goldfish, animal crackers, dried fruit, etc. are great. You can also bring a limited amount of yogurt, cheese, puddings, etc. with you as long as they are in containers less than 3oz (100ml)
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/prohibited/permitted-prohibited-items.shtm#10





I've been flying internationally & domestically with my children since they were each 2 months (now 9&6, 10 months and currently pregnant with #4). At least three trips a year are the children & I traveling internationally (14+ hours each way) alone. We do another 8-10 international & domestic flights a year as a family. Due to this, I have written a small article about flying with children that goes more in-depth, gives up to date security rules & regulations for the US, EU, UK, & Australia, offers tips & tricks for the travel, etc.
http://www.angelfire.com/jamiehassen79/flying_children.html

If I can be of any more help or assistance, please feel free to contact me.

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What toy can I buy to keep my 2 year old boy occupied in the back of my car?

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Tony

Really struggling to think of something for him to play with while we're out and about, ideas?

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Books:
You could get picture books(ones that he only uses in the car). Get a few books and rotate them so they seem new. I like the large board books that are basically a bunch of pictures of objects.

Another idea is books on tape. You child is a bit too young to follow along with the book, but he may enjoy listening to the story.

Portable DVD
A portable dvd and a favorite video will keep some children occupied while they are in the car. While I often do not advocate tv, if this is the only time he watches, it will defiantly keep his attention

Magnadoodle/Etch-a-sketch
These a great since they allow drawing without the mess of crayons or markers. There is also an aquadoodle travel, which is also good for mess free drawing.

Magnets and board
Get a box of magnets, and a magnetic board. Your son can stick the magnets to the board. Be sure you get enough magnets so if some are dropped, he still has many left.

Puzzles
There are some great puzzles that have doors to open, or pieces to move. Puzzles such as this http://www.target.com/Educo-Mighty-Motors/dp/B000GYSYCQ/sr=1-6/qid=1243736486/ref=sr_1_6/182-7501416-0677319?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=0&rh=k%3Atravel-toys-car&page=1 and http://www.amazon.com/Melissa-Doug-383-Latches-Board/dp/B000062SP5/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=toys-and-games&qid=1243736991&sr=1-4 are great for traveling in the car.

Does anyone have any good tips for surviving a road trip with two young boys this summer?

caillet

We are driving from Michigan to North Carolina for a vacation this summer. We are taking two days to drive there and two days to drive back, stopping halfway in Pennsylvania both times. My boys are 5 and 8 and have never experienced a major road trip like this before. I'm looking for tips on entertainment, car sickness remedies, games, must-pack items, thing like that.

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My biggest tip is to make sure the hotel you stay at in Penn has a pool! The second is to invest in a portable DVD player that takes 2 headsets. We frequently take long trips with our kids, and those two have been major life savers.

Food tips: Make sure you have a lot of non-sticky, not too salty treats to munch on. You will be cleaning them up from the car, so non-sticky is obvious. Not too salty is because salt makes them thirsty and you will end up having to stop to pee too often. Limit liquids somewhat, just let them drink water and they won't drink more than they need (like they would with juice boxes). Also, it won't be a sticky spill. Stop for lunch at somewhere with a play place, and let them run crazy for an hour. It pays off to get that energy out! And for dinner, one parent can take the kids in the pool while the other goes to pick up a take out dinner to eat in the hotel room. The kids will get worn out and go to bed much easier. My husband swims with the kids while I get dinner. I return and we both help get everyone dried off to eat and the kids take turns showering. Then everyone gets ready for bed. It is pretty much dinner then straight to bed, but if they swam for a while, they are worn out.

Toys: Besides the obvious electronics (Nintendo DS, the DVD player, Ipods) some other fun things to take along are small reward toys. Many larger toys are also available in small versions or even on key chains. We would purchase a few and pull them out as gift rewards for behaving for legs of the trip. Examples are mini-etch a sketch's, marble mazes (those little blocks with small metal beads you need to get through a maze), those finger paint pages that only work with the paint that looks clear till you use it on the special paper, coloring books with metallic crayons, black paper with gel pens, find it while you travel flash cards, small books with flaps (for 5 year old), small Lego sets... Go to your local toy store and look around. I put a few we liked below. We wrapped the toys, and put them in a basket for each child. They got to see the wrapped gifts and we explained that when we caught them being good for a while (usually a time of 2-3 hours), they would get to choose a gift. This was the incentive we used to get bad behavior to stop easily instead of getting worse. Also, the new toys will help occupy them for a while. Many fun things can be found at the cheapy dollar stores, or even in the grocery store toy aisle.

And finally, mostly be patient and willing to stop. If you are driving along and see a neat park or store or whatever, be willing to stop and take a look. Let everyone stretch their legs. If you arrive a little later, so be it. Having the trip be more relaxing will make it much more worth it than the hour or so you save by pushing tired kids beyond their limit. Also, we didn't rush out in the morning. We let the kids get in a morning swim first thing, then took off. They started the day off with less wiggles, and were excited to get up and moving in the morning.

Good luck and have fun!

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What should i take on the plane for my toddler, to keep her busy?

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nataliya

We will be flying for 10 hours, what can keep her busy onn the plane.She is almost 3 years old. Please let me know your ideas!

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I've been flying internationally and domestically with my children since they were 2 months (now 8&5). At least three trips a year are the children and I traveling internationally (14+ hours each way) alone. In addition to that, we do another 8-10 international and domestic flights a year as a family. I have never had any problems with my children on any of the flights. Here are a few tips and suggestions:


1.) Bring Snacks! just add water packets of food, cheerios, goldfish, animal crackers, dried fruit, etc. are great. New regulations also allow you to take beverages (including water) from home as long as they are less than 3oz (100ml), -OR- beverages (including water) of any size that you have purchased from inside the security area onto planes. You can also bring a limited amount of baby food, yogurt, cheese, puddings, etc. with you also as long as they are in containers less than 3oz (100ml)
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/prohibited/permitted-prohibited-items.shtm#9

As long as your child is with you, you are able to take as much formula, breast milk, or regular milk that you will need for you child for the duration of the time you will spend in the airport and on the flight (as long as it is within reason).And no, you will NOT have to taste it - no matter what form you bring it in.

All that you must do is:

1. Separate the milk from the liquids, gels, and aerosols in your quart-size (1 liter) zip-top bag.
2. Declare you have the items to one of the Security Officers at the security checkpoint.
3. Present these items for additional inspection once reaching the X-ray. These items are subject to additional screening
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/children/formula.shtm

Save your money when it comes to buying water though because the Flight Attendants will provide you with hot or cold water (or any other drink) free at any time that you request, no matter how many times you request it.

2.) Make sure to pack plenty of things to entertain your child, such as a few books, toys, a portable DVD player (be sure to bring extra batteries) or let her use your laptop (make sure it's fully charged) with a few movies, and one or two comfort things such as a favorite blankie or stuffed animal. I always bring a small pillow and blanket from home for my children (even now) because I know 100% that they are clean, and my children are accustomed to them.

My children like to bring along their own coloring books, a Doodle Pad, their Leap Pads (with a few booklets), and scrap paper that they can make their own drawings with and play games such as tic-tac-toe. My daughter used to like to bring along a doodle bear when she was younger so that she could draw on that as well, and my son likes to bring along some action figures to play with. I found that buying a Rose Art kit is great! It has crayons, markers, coloring books, coloring sheets, and stickers that they can color. It definitely keeps them entertained!

You can also play games like pat-a-cake, or I-spy, and tell stories to your child as well. If you tell a story, try to make it an interactive one where your child has a part in it so she stays interested.

You might also consider going to the store and letting your child (I let my children start this at the age of one) pick out her own carry on bag and a few inexpensive toys that will be used only once you are on the plane. Be sure to pick out a few toys without her seeing so that she has an extra surprise when she opens her carry on.

3.) You will need to have all your daughters documents in order. It is a good idea to keep a copy of her notarized birth certificate with you.

Keep your doctors name and number with you. Also get the name and number of a doctor where you are visiting in case an emergency should come up.

Another thing you should consider bringing with you is your childs immunization book. That way if any emergency should arise while you are on vacation (no matter where you are) the treating physician will at least have some verifiable information to go on. This book also usually includes what your child is allergic to, and some small but very helpful notes from your doctor.

Verify what travel documents you will need in advance to make sure you have everything.

4.) A car seat is not mandatory, but is highly recommended. Since your child is over two, she needs to have her own seat, but the problem is that she may be too small for the seat belts to fit her and restrain her properly (they'll be too loose).

I do advise using a CRS (Child Restraint System) because it is safe for the child - especially during turbulence, makes them feel secure, is more comfortable for both parent and child, will help your child sleep, and gives both of you the opportunity to relax a bit.

A CRS is a hard-backed child or infant or child safety seat that is approved by the government for use in both motor vehicles and aircraft.

In order to be certified for use on an airplane, the car seat has to met the Federal Motor Vehicle Safety Standards. Check the labels on the side of your car restraint for a sticker (words will be printed in red) for verification that your seat is safe for airplane use. Almost all car seats pass this requirement.

There is also a new device that is approved by the FAA for airline use ONLY. It is called CARES (Child Aviation Restraint System) and costs $75. It weighs 1 pound, is certified for all phases of flight (taxiing, take off, turbulence and landing), adjusts to fit ALL size airplane seats, and is approved for kids 22â44 lbs.
http://www.kidsflysafe.com/

Many airlines offer half-price tickets so parents can be guaranteed that their child can travel in a CRS device. You should call your airline to ask for a discount.

5.) Not all children have a problem with the pressure changes in their ears. If yours does however you'll want to know how to help. For take-offs and landings (the WHOLE way up, and starting from the BEGINNING, or TOP of descent), the best ways to alleviate ear pressure are to:

*Give her something to drink (milk, water, juice - it doesn't matter)
*Give her a pacifier to suck on
*Give her hard candy or mints to suck on
*Give her gum to chew
*Place hot damp towels (usually like the ones distributed to first and business class before take-off and landing to freshen up with - just ask a flight attendant for them) or paper towels that have been soaked in hot water and wrung out, at the bottom of two paper or styrofoam cups, then hold the cups over the ears
*Gently but with some pressure, rub her neck repeatedly from the chin to the base of the neck. This will cause a swallowing motion that will relieve pressure build-up in the ears.

You can also try using a decongestant. It is always best to check with your doctor before using any type of medications though, to make sure you are using the one best suited to your childs needs. I personally have found pain relief medications don't really help, and at least in my experience, decongestants are a waste of money.

6.) Keep your diaper bag well stocked with plenty of wipes, ointments and other essential things. Just remember the new law regulating liquids, gels, and such and pack accordingly. http://www.tsa.gov/311/index.shtm You can usually find travel size baby products in stores and they are wonderful for plane use. One thing I always like to carry with me is hand sanitizer! I always wipe the trays down with that (followed by a baby wipe) and use it for my kids after taking them to the bathroom (even though they wash their hands). I know that airplane bathrooms are not the cleanest, so that is why I try to be vigilant.

Be sure to pack 2-3 changes of clothes for your child. You will need this in case she gets sick, spills something on herself, or in case your luggage gets lost.

Bring any medications that you might need for your child should she get sick or that she takes regularly. Remember that if they are not prescription medications, the 3oz (100ml) rule applies to them and they must be kept in a clear plastic bag. http://www.tsa.gov/311/index.shtm

Do NOT give your child medicine with the hopes of it making her sleep. This is not only cruel, but dangerous as well. I have also seen where it backfires; a parent gives their child a dose of Benedryl to make them sleep, but instead it gets the child more hyper and the parents get absolutely no rest on the flight (and neither does anyone else).

Try to have your child use the toilet as close to boarding as possible. This will help to make you daughter feel fresh and more comfortable for take-off (which could also mean less problems).

7.) Don't worry about what the other passengers are going to think or say should your child cry. This will only add stress, which your child can pick up on, and it could make her cry longer and harder. Instead, just relax, and handle the situation like you would if you were at home. Most times the other passengers are very understanding anyways and some will even try to help you. Which reminds me, if help is offered to you, TAKE it!

8.) Before you travel, I always suggest preparing children for what to expect so that they are not caught off guard and scared on the day of travel. You want to make sure that you tell him what is going to happen from the time you get to the airport until the time you arrive at your destination. You don't need to go into any great detail here, but give her something that she will be able to reference when actually traveling. If you are able to, I always suggest doing a dry run of the airport. This provides you with an opportunity to explain to your child what is going to happen while he can see first hand what it looks like.

Here is a link to a question I answered about what to expect when flying (also includes information about what to do at the airport) that may help you out a bit: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnuyJVZLZSuuQXP6rCWLSLvty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071108205522AAKqKgt&show=7#profile-info-a15ae544077933e44570caf0403c65abaa




I wrote a small article about flying with children that goes more in-depth, gives airport security rules and regulations for the US, EU, and UK, plus offers tips and tricks for the travel, etc. http://www.angelfire.com/jamiehassen79/flying_children.html

If I can be of any more help or assistance, please feel free to contact me.

Do you have any book suggestions for young readers?

swbiblio

For Christmas, I give books to all of the kids I know. I like to read the books before giving them, partly because I want to be sure they're appropriate, and partly because I like to be able to talk to them about the books. I've already given books like Ender's Game, Eragon, The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, Hoot, Harry Potter - the obvious ones. I'd prefer paperback.

I need suggestions for books for a couple of 11 -14 year old boys, one of whom is into WWII and outdoorsy stuff, and another who likes science fiction. Also, any "best reads" for new readers and un-readers (I have a couple of toddlers and babies on the list)?

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11-14 year old boys...
The Lightning Thief by Rick Riordan (yes, it's paperback; modern fantasy)
Code Talker by Joseph Bruchac (yes, paperback; WWII)
Everlost by Neal Shusterman (hardback, supernatural adventure)
Life As We Knew It by Susan Beth Pfeffer (hardback, science fiction, (end of the world/survival))
Ender's Shadow by Orson Scott Card (paperback; IF you've successfully given Ender's Game, this book seems fitting as well for science fiction lovers).
Peter and the Starcatchers by Dave Barry and Ridley Pearson (paperback, fantasy)
Here There Be Dragons by James A. Owen (hardback, fantasy)

For toddlers/preschoolers
Dooby Dooby Moo by Doreen Cronin and Betsy Lewin (hardcover)
Click Clack Moo: Cows That Type by Doreen Cronin and Betsy Lewin (paperback)
Llama Llama Red Pajama by Anna Dewdney
Dog Blue by Polly Dunbar
A Hug For You by Margaret Anastas

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Any advices for traveling on an international flight with a baby and a preschooler?

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Mod W

I am wondering if anyone could give me an advice for traveling on an international flight with a baby and a preschooler? I am planning a trip to visit my family in Thailand at the beginning of next year. My children will be 3 years old, and 4 months old. It is scaring to think about being alone with 2 little ones on a 20 hours flight from US to Thailand. Please let me know. I need an advance suggestions to prepare. Which airline is the best for traveling with the children?

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bring some toys (noiseless ones would be very much appreciated by fellow flyers). Try to time your babies feeding so that it is happening during take off. Helps stop ears from popping and therefore no crying.

Bring books to read for them, snacks are good too. you may want to bring a comfy pillow for your toddler as the ones on the plane aren't comfy.

20 hour is an insanely long flight for them. wow! good luck. But just try to bring as many comforts of home and as many things to keep them amused as possible.

Good luck!

What is a good activity to go along with trail mix?

Alyssa B

I need a good preschool age appropriate activity that goes along with the snack of trail mix. I was thinking something on the lines of traveling. It can be a file folder or craft pretty much anything that will take longer than 5 minutes. any idea or websites would be great! thanks!

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Hello Alyssa.

You use a snack of Trail Mix, when?
Why of course...when you are on a hike
Are you able to take a hike (walk) outside anywhere?
There all sorts of themed hikes you can do with your preschoolers.

One I love is to have several students pick out a favorite toy or crayon. Using those items, try to find those colors while on your walk.

Another is to have them stop, look, listen at various points. Leading them to certain "FINDS" - ie a bird in a nest singing, a bird in the tree, a squirrel, a leaf, a pine cone, a fish in the water, a duck, etc. They can then come in and draw or color what they Found while on their discovery walk.

You could also set up an outside trek - where you have to jump over the river (two jumpropes), crawl under a ___ (anything low lying) , go into a cave (a box - open eneded), climb a huge rock - etc... use your imagination with it...anything can be fun.


write and let us know what you do

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How does one travel with an infant/toddler by taxi, bus or train? Is a infant car seat or booster required?

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Lovell P

Normally, when I drive, the baby is in the infant seat at the rear. How does one manage when traveling in another state or on vacation? Or even if I want to use a taxi cab to the airport?? Any tips from experienced parents are welcome.

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I worked for United Airlines and if you leave from/arrive/or pass thru a hub, they will give you a loaner car seat and a return postage bag to send it back via fed ex....just ask....most car rental companies have them for a nominal fee.....Safe Travels!

Looking for Recaro infant car seat and stroller that can be converted and attached together for an easy travel?

Selena Sem

I'm looking for a Recaro infant car seat that can convert to a booster seat or seat big enough for toddler and a stroller that can be attached to infant seat. I don't know where to find it. I can only find booster seats. Can someone enlighten me on this!? Links? And explanations of the product.

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What country are you from? In the US, Recaro doesn't make infant car seats. Recaro makes them for use in Europe.

Most "3 in 1" seats are gimmicks- parents want to use only 1 car seat for their child and that is what sells those seats. There is always some flaw with "3 in 1" seats, which is why, if I do recommend them, to only use the seat in certain modes (if it has good uses, but isn't good for other uses).

In the US, we have what is called convertible car seats. These can be used rear facing for infants (most parents buy infant car seats that can only be used rear facing; infant seats are small, and infants outgrow them rather quickly). Convertible car seats have a higher weight limit and a taller shell than infant seats.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that children remain rear facing until they are at least 2 years old. They also recommend to rear face a child as long as possible. This means, after using an infant seat, to switch to a convertible car seat and use it in the rear facing position until the child outgrows it by weight or height.

A rear facing car seat (in the US) is outgrown when ONE of the following happens:
-the child has hit the maximum weight limit of the seat
-the child's head is 1 inch away from the shell of the seat

Keep your child rear facing in their convertible car seat until one of the above happens. A rear facing child is 5 times safer than a front facing child. In Scandinavian countries, kids are kept rear facing until they are at least 4 years old. The Swedish have very low fatalities for children in car accidents. Every year, fatalities are close to zero, while in the United States, car crashes are the leading cause of injury, disability, and death for children under 12 years of age.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lg4zBeU7md4
Above link: Video from the IIHS about rear facing for babies and toddlers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvyIv9QVRBE
Above link: Shows pictures of kids rear facing in convertible car seats; many kids are over age 2 and are still rear facing!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8gU9zzCGA8
Above link: Joel at 18 months and 33 lbs broke his neck while in a front facing car seat

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What should I bring for my kids traveling internationally?

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Jewel

We are going on vacation to visit family for the first time in Europe this summer but I am a little scared about the flight over and back. I have a 10 yr old, 6 yr old and a 2 yr old (all boys) and I need some serious ideas to keep them entertained during all parts of the flight (take off, supper, sleeping, landing etc). I'm especially worried about the 2 yr old and 6 yr old. What are some good traveling tips, ideas to bring (not just in general toys, what kind?) hints that would help on their first international airplane ride?

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I've been traveling internationally with my son since he was born (now 26 months) and for longer than that with my nieces and nephews and with a little planning all will go smooth. Looks like you are already on the right track.

Here are some tips:

1 Arrive at the airport early to get checked in comfortably and be sure you have documents in order. In addition to a passport, it is always good to carry a copy of your children's birth certificate -- you may need it to prove you are their parent. Also if you are traveling alone with your children be sure you have a notarized letter from the other parent giving you permission to do so or you may be stopped at security.

If you need a stroller for your 2-year-old, you can go through security with a stroller and take your baby in the stroller right up to the door of the airplane -- you stroller will need a tag that you get at the gate -- and they will check it for you there. Take advantage of early boarding for families -- if your kids won't get too crazy waiting on the plane for everyone else to board. If so, board last.

2. When booking your seat, ask for seats in the bulkhead. That is the area right in the front of the plane. It has more room and will allow you to easily change your child or let him/her play when it is safe to do so. One note though: Because there are no seats in from of you, you'll have to stow all your carry-on luggage in the overhead compartments during take-off and landing and that could impede access for necessary items like toys. A window seat is great for kids and maybe your kids can share, switching off for the flight. My 2-year-old loves to look out the window and see the wing and the clouds!

3. Be sure to bring favorite snacks (we always have cheerios on hand) as many airlines don't serve food anymore and those that do either serve things kids won't eat, can't eat (peanuts) or serve junk food. (We order a kid's meal on one flight and it consisted of potato chips, candy bars and a sugery drink -- things we don't give our kid anyway, but a disaster to pump them full of sugar on a plane). Bottled water is plentiful on board so you can always bring dried cereals that can be rehydrated and heated by flight attendants, who in my experience have always been willing to help. Remember that there are limits on liquids that you can bring on through security these days -- including baby foods -- but whatever you buy after security is okay. Look for easy to carry, easy to eat foods in the airport. I know not always easy but even applesauce is a good choice.

4. Before the flight, go to a dollar store and pick up some cheap toys. I usually get one thing for every hour of flight -- that would be times 3 for you. What you get is really up to your child's interest but make it something that can carried easily. A new toy is a novelty and will keep your child entertained longer. Do pack a few favorites from home, especially some good books your child loves to read or have read to her. But if your child has an irreplaceable toy (a favorite teddy bear he has to sleep with for example) either don't bring it or don't bring it out during flight in case it gets lost. Your child will be desperate! (Don't pack it in your checked luggage either -- if this gets lost, same problem). Before you leave find out if the plane your will be on has in-seat entertainment systems. These are great for kids because they can play video games or watch TV or movies. If not, you may consider investing in a portable DVD player if you kids will wear headphones -- although with three kids unless you want to lug 3 players this could become a problem.

Make sure each kid has there own piece of luggage -- a backpack or small rollaway -- to keep their stuff in and make them feel like they a big kid for having their own suitcase.

Get the kids interested in the flight plan -- they usually show this on video at certain points during the flight. They can figure out how long they've been flying, what countries they've passed over, etc. Lots of fun for the older ones.

5. To deal with pressure on the ears for your child, be sure they have something to suck on. The older two can learn how to yawn or unblock their ears in otherways like by chewing gum. For the little one, if your child takes a pacifier let him have it during takeoff and landing. If not a sippy cup is good.

6. Some people might recommend this but I don't think you have to drug your child to fly with them. Some people will suggest that you give your child things like benadryl to make them sleep and I think this is a mistake. You child should only take medications that are medically necessary not for the convenience of you or other adults who may not like that you are traveling with an infant.

What you should do is carry any common medicines you use for your children (Children's Tylenol, for example) in case they get sick while you are abroad and you can't find medicines they are used to taking. Also keep your pediatrician's contact info with you in case you have to contact them.

7. Always ask for help if you need it from airline employees both on the ground and in-flight. They are more than happy to help to make your flight as smooth as possible.

Finally, check with your pediatrician before you leave to see if they have any suggestions for you or if your child is not well if it is okay to fly.

Hope this is all helpful and that you have a great flight and vacation!

Could you offer any suggestions to make the trip smooth on traveling by airplane with a 10.5 month old?

Belle Z.

We are traveling via airplane with our 10.5 month old daughter for a 4 hour flight and I am looking for pointers to make the trip smooth. We have requested aisle seat. She is traveling in our lap.
Do you think giving a bottle with formula during take off and landing is wise or would you think juice/water is better? Also, I am going to pack finger food snacks and a few small toys for the trip. We are gate checking her stroller as well.

Thank You!

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Well it sounds like you have it pretty much worked out so far. :)
Since this is only a four hour flight I'm assuming that you are taking a domestic flight which would rule out asking for a bulk head seat. Depending on the aircraft you are flying on you can still request it. Believe me. Everybody on that flight wants a happy baby too! :)
I would recommend feeding a formula bottle on take-off, especially if it will help her sleep. If you take a tired baby on a flight and get her tummy full on take-off chances are you'll be blessed and have a very smooth flight with a zonked out lap-infant.
Goodluck!

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how important is it to have a LIGHTWEGIHT UMBRELLA STROLLER?

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singlechic

when u already have a regular one like the big clunky one from a travel system? just curios i have limited funds and a few baby items left to buy before she gets here. is that a must=have item?

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no, i have to say they are a waste! i use mine to take packages into the post office, other than that it sits in the back of the van or in the garage. it is difficult to steer and my kids put their feet down on the ground which makes it tough to use, plus for a baby it does not recline. stick with the bigger stroller!

and FYI they are only 12 bux at target, walmart and toys r us.

What are some baby items you really enjoy having?

Mrs.

I'm talking about things that the baby likes, or things that make life more convienent. Not MUST haves, but things you really like having.

Answer
well, u can go to babies r us website and they have a list for ppl who are going to register..of course it has a lot of things on there that you don't need, but if you weed through you can get what you need out of it...the things i liked;found most useful, etc......

.i would def recommend:
a diaper genie 2; idk why ppl don't like them, there is NO smell in my dd 's room
changing table..will save your back, good for diap changes, clothes changes, sponge baths, etc and you have shelves to store your new baby must haves....i have canvas bins on the shelves to store things that are good to have in reach or easily available...
monitor--i like the graco imonitor, recently bought a second one for another room in the house bc i liked the other one so much, it has been working well for over 8 mos now, and it has good range, battery life, and i can hear EVERYTHING; never any interference....it works great..
boppy pillow with cotton covers, soft ones don't fit as well for some reason
lots of baby hangers, and baby hangers with clips to keep outfits together
primo euro bathtub
prince lionheart diaper depot and wipewarmer; ours works well and the wipes are still very warm when we get them to out dd's bottom; and she doesn't freak out when we are out and they aren't warmed, but seems to appreciate it when they are..
health kit: brush, comb, thermometer (not an ear one, not as accurate), nail clippers, etc.
baby meds, generic is just as good and a lot cheaper...desitin(or plain zinc oxide if you can find it)..not creamy, has less zinc ox in it....infant mylicon and tylenol
lots of diapers , make sure wherever you buy them will let you exchange them for a diff size if you need to even after the return period...brus let me do that, and buy a small pack of a couple brands to see which you prefer before you open the big boxes...wipes, lots of them, without alcohol or fragrance! we use swaddlers diapers and pampers sensitive wipes; no rashes, no reactions to their ingredients, diapers hold a lot when they have too and the netting tends to keep the wet off her bottom...
lots of baby washclothes, you may have to use them on baby's bum if it is really sensitive and gets a rash....and baby towels, but you could use your reg towels if money is an issue

swing, pref swings two ways and plugs in instead of batteries
bouncy seat
infant travel system! easy, easy, easy--we got the graco tour deluxe; it is great, folds with one hand, several seating positions, lays flat for sleep; has a big basket underneath and cup holders for mom and dad, one for baby , place for snacks for baby, and a 'pocket' up top for keys, cell phone, whatever you wanna put there...
play yard, get one with bassinet feature if you want to, easier to keep baby in your room for a while before putting them in crib in their room=we have chicco discovery and it is awesome, has more padding than most, easy to wash..machine wash, most are wipe down...very sturdy, has nightlight, vibration, etc and a flip up change table, has wooden slats that slide in under mattress for support...not that much more exp than the others and much better in my opinion
passys--she loves soothies and that is all she will take..
baby wash, again frag free, dye free
frag free , dye free laundry detergent
clothes hamper or basket
lingerie bag for socks, mittens, anything little so they don't get lost in the wash...
something to put baby toys in
extra toy links
lullaby cd and small cd player; my dd has come to love white noise, she naps with a fan and a womb bear; sleeps at night with a fan....
oh, mosquito cover for your infant carrier..it's where you can see in , baby can see out, but strangers cant just walk up and touch your baby, and they will!!!!!
all i can come up with now...LOL
diaper bags; big one for everything you may need, leave in car unless you will be somewhere a long time, and a small one to stick what you will need for a short run in so you don't have to haul the bigger one

if ffing:
avent formula dispenser; has better review than the ones made by sassy, and convert to a snack cup later...i loved it so much i bought a second one!
bottles--really liked playtex ventaire advanced when she was young, more pieces but it's easy to get them clean when the top and bottom comes off...and they vent through the bottom instead of the nip so no bubbles or foam going back up into baby's milk; they will leak if you don't put them together correctly, but we have had no probs with them and have never had to replace any parts on them..if u decide on them and have leaks, email me and i will explain how to keep them from leaking...:O)
bottle and nip brushes--i really like the ones by munchking that don't have a sponge on the end of the brush, they come in diff colors mixed with white and have a great nip brush in the handles....
drying racks--again, i really like munchkins...
formula mixer: i like dr brown's formula pitcher bc you don't shake it it is only abo

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Where can I find an online newspaperthat allows teens to write journalism articles for it?

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October J

I want to be a journalist and I would need some experience before starting college. I was wondering if there are any special websites or online papers for teenagers or that allo teenagers to go through the whole journalism process?

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Hey dude, i just found an awesome articles site. http://worldwebportal.co.cc/

The site has got numerous articles on all of the following topics....Its awesome dude..i m loving it...

For u i hav copied the indexpage of the site http://worldwebportal.co.cc/ . Hav a look, i msure u wud lov it too..

Topics are as under:
Accounting Acne Adsense Advertising Aerobics Affiliate Alternative Articles Attraction Auctions Audio Streaming Auto Care Automotive-Special Articles Auto Parts Auto ResponderS Aviation Babies Toddler Baby Bathroom Beauty Bedroom Blogging Body Building Book Marketing Book Review Branding Breast Cancer Broadband Internet Business Business-Special Articles Business Plan Cancer Car Buying Career Car Maintenance Cars Cell Phone Chat Children-Special Articles Christmas Claims Coaching Communication-Special Articles Computer-Special Articles Creative Writing Currency Trading Data Recovery Diabetics Diet Digital Camera Diving Divorce Domain Driving Tips Ebay Ebook Ecommerce Education-Special Articles Email Marketing E Marketing Essay Ezine Fashion Fashion-Special Articles Family-Special Articles Fishing Fitness Flu Food-Special Articles Furniture Golf Google GPS Hair Hair Loss HDTV Health-Special Articles Heart Disease Hobbies Holiday Home Business Home Improvement Home Improvement-Special Articles Home Organization Interior Design Internet Tips Investment Jewelry Kitchen Ladies Accessories Lawyer LCD / PLASMA Legal Legal-Special Articles Life Insurance Love Mailing List Make Money Marketing-Special Articles MP3 music Network Marketing Online Shopping Online Business-Special Articles Paid Survey Parenting-Special Articles PC Games Perfume Personal Injury Pay Per Click Pregnancy Publishing Real Estate Recipe Recreation Recreation-Special Articles Relationship Resume Romance RSS Sales Letter Self Employment Self Improvement-Special Articles SEO Shoes Small Business Smoking Software SpSpam Blocking Sports Spyware Stress Trading Travel Travel-Special Articles Vacation Video Conferencing Video Streaming Virus VOIP Web Design Web Development Web Development-Special Articles Web Hosting Website Traffic Wedding Weight Loss Women Writing Tips

When planning a cruise do you count those under 2 years old?

PUREfect Y

My husband and I are planning a vacation, and at the time of the vacation we will have a 1 year old, I can't find anywhere on the cruise websites that mentions children and if a baby counts as a 3rd person or not.. anyone know?

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YES!!, Cruise lines charge by the cabin with the basic rate being based on double occupancy (at least two people). All of the cruise lines charge for all of the people in your party, regardless of age, even infants. However, the price of your cabin will be based on double occupancy for the first two people and any additional people in the cabin, regardless of age, will pay a much lower price that is usually in the range of about 50 percent of the fare for the first two people. So if you and spouse pay $1000 each for a 7-day cruise then you will likely pay $500 each for any additional people in your cabin, infants, toddlers, etc., regardless of age.

On occasion the cruise lines will run a special when they charge a much lower rate for the 3rd, 4th and 5th persons in your cabin; sometimes as low as $100 each. But the normal is about 50 percent.

For example, here's what Royal Caribbean has on its web site about fares for children:

" Because Royal Caribbean cruise vacations offer so many special activities for children, we do not usually offer discounted rates. However, anyone staying in the same stateroom with two full-fare paying guests will pay a special third and/or fourth guest rate. So if you intend on having your children stay in your stateroom, their rate may be lower. "

If you want to save money and get a lower price you must either book the specials that all of the cruise lines offer, or book well in advance and that means like a year in advance or more.

You can find the exact amount that you will pay for any cruise for your family ask a travel agent to check for you, or call the cruise line and ask. Or, you can start a booking on line and see what your total will be and then cancel the action without completing it or just close the web page.

My advice is book very early and look for a special on the cruise line web sites.

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I have a problem regarding weight restrictions on flights?

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Q. Me, my daughter and partner are traveling home this year and are planning on staying for quite a while.
I have a children's toy that is very large but very lightweight. Its an exersaucer for babies and I cant live without it!
So...i plan on taking it apart and bubble wrapping it up so its all compact...its around 3ftx3ft and weighs approx 3-5 kg....
Would i be able to take this with me including mine and my partners suitcases?
What are the restrictions?
If i could is there any other requirements that i have to follow?

Please help!

Answer
The main question, since the weight is minimal, is how many other pieces of luggage you are taking. If you are already at your maximum for the airline you are taking then you will have to pay for it which can cost as much as $100. It may be cheaper to ship it separately to your address there rather than carry it on the plane.

This item would count as one piece of checked luggage since the size would be too large to meet carry-on requirements. In general you are allowed two pieces of checked luggage per person so, in total, the 3 of you should be able to bring 3 pieces of carry-on luggage and 6 pieces of checked luggage. If your checked luggage is 5 or less you may be able to bring it on the flight. Note that checked luggage can be limited to a total size for both pieces so, depending on the airline, this may count as two items which means that your checked luggage could be limited to 4 pieces in addition to this. Check with the airline as soon as possible and they can inform you as to whether this can be brought with you under your baggage allowance.

What baby items did you find to be the most & least useful?

Malia's Mo

We just spent 2 hours in Babies R Us registering for my baby shower and we have over 200 items. I know I'm not going to get everything, and it was mainly just to show various gift options, but what items are absolute musts and what items can wait? This is my first baby so I haven't been able to test anything out yet. Thank you! =)

Answer
well, u can go to babies r us website and they have a list for ppl who are going to register..of course it has a lot of things on there that you don't need, but if you weed through you can get what you need out of it...the things i liked;found most useful, etc......

.i would def recommend:
a diaper genie 2; idk why ppl don't like them, there is NO smell in my dd 's room
changing table..will save your back, good for diap changes, clothes changes, sponge baths, etc and you have shelves to store your new baby must haves....i have canvas bins on the shelves to store things that are good to have in reach or easily available...
monitor--i like the graco imonitor, recently bought a second one for another room in the house bc i liked the other one so much, it has been working well for over 8 mos now, and it has good range, battery life, and i can hear EVERYTHING; never any interference....it works great..
boppy pillow with cotton covers, soft ones don't fit as well for some reason
lots of baby hangers, and baby hangers with clips to keep outfits together
primo euro bathtub
prince lionheart diaper depot and wipewarmer; ours works well and the wipes are still very warm when we get them to out dd's bottom; and she doesn't freak out when we are out and they aren't warmed, but seems to appreciate it when they are..
health kit: brush, comb, thermometer (not an ear one, not as accurate), nail clippers, etc.
baby meds, generic is just as good and a lot cheaper...desitin(or plain zinc oxide if you can find it)..not creamy, has less zinc ox in it....infant mylicon and tylenol
lots of diapers , make sure wherever you buy them will let you exchange them for a diff size if you need to even after the return period...brus let me do that, and buy a small pack of a couple brands to see which you prefer before you open the big boxes...wipes, lots of them, without alcohol or fragrance! we use swaddlers diapers and pampers sensitive wipes; no rashes, no reactions to their ingredients, diapers hold a lot when they have too and the netting tends to keep the wet off her bottom...
lots of baby washclothes, you may have to use them on baby's bum if it is really sensitive and gets a rash....and baby towels, but you could use your reg towels if money is an issue

swing, pref swings two ways and plugs in instead of batteries
bouncy seat
infant travel system! easy, easy, easy--we got the graco tour deluxe; it is great, folds with one hand, several seating positions, lays flat for sleep; has a big basket underneath and cup holders for mom and dad, one for baby , place for snacks for baby, and a 'pocket' up top for keys, cell phone, whatever you wanna put there...
play yard, get one with bassinet feature if you want to, easier to keep baby in your room for a while before putting them in crib in their room=we have chicco discovery and it is awesome, has more padding than most, easy to wash..machine wash, most are wipe down...very sturdy, has nightlight, vibration, etc and a flip up change table, has wooden slats that slide in under mattress for support...not that much more exp than the others and much better in my opinion
passys--she loves soothies and that is all she will take..
baby wash, again frag free, dye free
frag free , dye free laundry detergent
clothes hamper or basket
lingerie bag for socks, mittens, anything little so they don't get lost in the wash...
something to put baby toys in
extra toy links
lullaby cd and small cd player; my dd has come to love white noise, she naps with a fan and a womb bear; sleeps at night with a fan....
oh, mosquito cover for your infant carrier..it's where you can see in , baby can see out, but strangers cant just walk up and touch your baby, and they will!!!!!
all i can come up with now...LOL
diaper bags; big one for everything you may need, leave in car unless you will be somewhere a long time, and a small one to stick what you will need for a short run in so you don't have to haul the bigger one

if ffing:
avent formula dispenser; has better review than the ones made by sassy, and convert to a snack cup later...i loved it so much i bought a second one!
bottles--really liked playtex ventaire advanced when she was young, more pieces but it's easy to get them clean when the top and bottom comes off...and they vent through the bottom instead of the nip so no bubbles or foam going back up into baby's milk; they will leak if you don't put them together correctly, but we have had no probs with them and have never had to replace any parts on them..if u decide on them and have leaks, email me and i will explain how to keep them from leaking...:O)
bottle and nip brushes--i really like the ones by munchking that don't have a sponge on the end of the brush, they come in diff colors mixed with white and have a great nip brush in the handles....
drying racks--again, i really like munchkins...
formula mixer: i like dr brown's formula pitcher bc you don't shake it it is only abo

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Any suggestions on flying with a 13 month old?

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Snow

I am going to be flying overseas with our 13 month old. It is a ten hour flight and our 13 month old has hit the screaming stage...you know when he gets excited or mad or whatever. Any suggestions on keeping him quiet and occupied? Thanks for the suggestions.
To the person who doesn't know why we would fly with a 13 month old...my husband is military and we are flying home to see family. That's what happens when you are in the military.

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I'm a former Flight Attendant and I fly a lot with my children, transatlantics and other flights.

This can be a tough age, especially if your little guy can run. Communication is limited and they can't really understand what's going on (why they have to stay seated or wait, or whatever). Most other passengers understand this and will not complain if they see you are trying to attend to your little one's needs.

I do recommend that he have his own seat and that you bring his carseat along. This is the only way to fly safely with any baby. If you're military, they usually pay for a seat for each member of the family.

Check with the airline you're flying. If it's a U.S. company, which you probably are, since you're military, this is the relevant page;
http://www.faa.gov/passengers/fly_children/crs/

If, for whatever reason, you haven't booked a seat for him, call the airline and see if the flight is full. Then, at check in, ask nicely if you can have an empty seat next to you to place your carseat in. They often do this for families.

I will say that my toddlers were much more settled and much easier when they were in their familar seat. I will admit that I've strapped down an unhappy little one more than once. Toddlers hate to be confined and simply don't understand that they have to be seated sometimes. Firmly anchored in, I could then consol them while we landed.

To get through the airport, there is no need to carry a car seat. There are all sorts of gizmos sold like these;

http://www.gogobabyz.com/products/gogo_kids.html
http://www.amazon.com/Traveling-Toddler-Attach-Rolling-Carry/dp/B000JHN3AS
http://www.onestepahead.com/product/osa/363756.html

I simply use a small metal luggage cart with an extra bungee cord and it works great. I skip on the stroller and she can even ride in it. She usually prefers to walk and then I load the carry-ons abord.

Besides, taking your car seat onboard virtually guarentees that it'll be there at your destination. Checking them risks damage and loss. Wont you need it when you get there?

For entertainment, get her a new toy, anything, and it doesn't have to be expensive. Keep it and give it to him once you're on the plane. I found that stickers, coloring stuff and books were better at occupying them at this age. No one will mind if you read to him.

I actually don't recommend a portable DVD player *unless* he can watch it without sound. I doubt he'll wear the headphones at this age but you can try it at home. If you opt to bring it, make sure it either has a battery life of at least 5 hours or you have a second battery. Bring the recharger in your carry-on and any adapter you need in case of a delay.

Just some other small tips;
-Bring at least one change of clothes
-Bring way more diapers than you think you'll need
-Learn to change him standing up (don't try to fit him on one of those tiny babychangers and toddlers hate to lie down in strange places)
-Bring an empty sippy cup to fill during the services. This will prevent spills in the air.
-Get up and move around with him but keep an eye out. Those carts the F/A's use are the perfect height for hiding little ones
-Bring snacks. Don't fret security. I've never had anything taken away (yes, water but not snacks) and that's the only risk. If you have something not allowed, they simply remove the item. No scenes, no speeches, no arrests!
-Try to sit in a bulkhead seat so that there's no one in front of you
-Bring slippers, especially if you're not in the bulkhead!

It's actually a myth that children need to suck on something for take-off and landing. I rarely saw problems in my 13 years as a Flight Attendant and I have never, ever done anything special with them for take-offs and landings.

ENT specialists simply recommend that the child is awake for at the top of descent (not landing, which is too late);
http://www.entcda.com/AAOHNSF/earsandaltitude/htm

This is usually 40 minutes to an hour before landing and everyone's ears have to reverse the pressurization.

Please don't wake your son unnecessarily during take-off or landing to force him to drink, and don't make him if he doesn't want to.

Basically, for the whole trip, let him sleep, eat and run when he can. Be Good Parents when you get to your destination but let whatever slide while in transit. Don't keep him up at any stage to make him sleep. I've seen this backfire too many times!

The BEST way to avoid ear issues is to take your little boy to the doctor a few days before flying. My son was good at getting symptomless ear infections. The doctor will look in his ears and make sure they're clear and infection-free. Healthy ears can handle pressurization changes.

For more information, I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with kids. It's totally non-commercial and other parents have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren.blogspot.com

An edited version appeared on the Expat Women website in December;
http://www.expatwomen.com/mothers/flying_with_children.php

All of you get plenty of sleep the night before and have a good flight!

can drs give toddlers meds to help them relax on airplane rides?

Beth P

I'm just trying to get some information about if its true or not because I'm to scared to do that to my child. and if any of you have traveled on a plane with a 1 year old longer than 9 hours as a lap child what are some ideas to occupy them?

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I'm a fomer Flight Attendant and I fly a lot with my children. While I've never given any of mine any sort of medication to sleep, I've seen it done many times. Usually it's worked but twice, the children had the opposite reaction and went wired. I have an antihistimine allergy and it's runs in my family so since I ended up in the emergency room at age 7 unconscience from Benedryl, I can't risk giving them to my kids. This is a common allergy so it's important to try it home first.

If your flight is less than 6 hours, I think it's kind of an extreme measure for such a young baby. I saw it used more often on long international flights with toddlers who walked (and ran!)

I do recommend that she have her own seat and that you bring her carseat along. Try to get an extra seat next to you if the flight isn't full.

This is the only way to fly safely with any baby. Lap children are allowed because statistically, flying is so safe, there's very little chance of anything going wrong. If it does though, these babies have no protection.

First check that your seat is FAA approved;
http://www.faa.gov/passengers/fly_children/crs/

If you are not flying a U.S. company, check your airline's website for information on what car seats are allowed. I will admit that often they don't check the details and I've flown many times with seats that weren't strictly approved by a foreign airline (and had them taken away and checked a couple of times).

Since you haven't booked a seat for her, call the airline and see if the flight is full. Then, at check in, ask nicely if you can have an empty seat next to you to place your carseat in. They often do this for families.

I found that my toddlers were much more settled and much easier when they were in their familar seat. Not to scare you but some parents haven't been able to keep a hold of their little ones and have been "off loaded" as a result.

http://www.usatoday.com/travel/flights/2007-01-23-airtran_x.htm


I confess that I've strapped down an unhappy little one more than once. Toddlers hate to be confined and simply don't understand that they have to be seated sometimes. Firmly anchored in, I could then consol them while we landed.

To get through the airport, they sell all sorts of gizmos like these;
http://www.gogobabyz.com/products/gogo_kids.html
http://www.amazon.com/Traveling-Toddler-Attach-Rolling-Carry/dp/B000JHN3AS
http://www.onestepahead.com/product/osa/363756.html

I simply use a small metal luggage cart with an extra bungee cord and it works great. I skip on the stroller and she can even ride in it (and she's 3 1/2). She usually prefers to walk and then I load the carry-ons abord.

Besides, taking your car seat onboard virtually guarentees that it'll be there at your destination. Checking them risks damage and loss. Wont you need it when you get there?

For entertainment, get her a new toy, anything and it doesn't have to be expensive. Keep it and give it to her once you're on the plane. My son at that age liked anything with wheels. Once, I simply had a package of plastic animals. Kept him busy for ages!

I actually don't recommend a portable DVD player *unless* she can watch it without sound. Even played quietly, it'll drive the other passengers batty. I doubt she'll wear the headphones but try it at home if you already have one. Check your DVD player's battery time and turn the screen to dim to prolong it on board.

I found that stickers, coloring stuff and books (especially chunky ones) were better at occupying them at this age. No one will mind if you read to her. My daughter made a mess with PlayDough but many parents swear by it.

Just some other small tips;
-Bring a change of clothes
-Bring way more diapers than you think you'll need
-wrap everything bulky, like clothes and extra diapers in plastic bags, and use rubber bands to reduce the bulk and save space in your carry-on
-If you formula feed, use the kind of bottles with plastic liners. Premeasure the powder, roll them up and put them in a ziplock bag. Airplane bathrooms have bad sinks for washing traditional bottles.
-Make sure you baby is used to a room-temperature bottle. I warmed many a bottle in my career but I saw first-hand what a pain it is. The baby isn't getting any health-advantage to the warmed bottle and no one will do this task while you're in the security or check-in line.
-Learn to change her standing up, assuming she can stand with support (don't try to fit her on those tiny babychangers and babies at that age hate to lie down in strange places)
-Bring snacks she likes that aren't too messy. Don't fret security. I've never had anything taken away (yes, water but not snacks) and that's the only risk. If you have something not allowed, they simply remove the item. No scenes, no speeches, no arrests!
-Try to sit in a bulkhead seat so that there's no one in front of you
-Bring slippers, especially if you're not in the bulkhead!

It's actually a myth that children need to suck on something for take-off and landing. I rarely saw it in my 13 years as a Flight Attendant and with all the flights I've made with my children, I have never, ever done anything special with them for take-offs and landings and we've never had any ear issues.

ENT specialists simply recommend that the child is awake for landing;
http://www.entcda.com/AAOHNSF/earsandalt...

The delicate time is not during take-off or landing/touchdown but at the *top of descent*. This is usually 40 minutes to an hour before landing and everyone's ears have to reverse the pressurization. I can confirm that when I worked, if any passengers had ear problems, this was the time. Not just children either! They actualy felt *better* as we got closer to landing.

The BEST way to avoid ear issues is to take your little guy to the doctor a few days before flying. My son was good at getting symptomless ear infections. Make sure yours' doesn't have one of those! The doctor will look in his ears and make sure they're clear and infection-free. Healthy ears can handle pressurization changes.

For more information, I wrote an article on this subject. It's based on both my personal and professional experience of flying with kids. It's totally non-commercial and other parents have contributed;
http://flyingwithchildren.blogspot.com

Both of you get plenty of sleep the night before and good luck!

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Anyone have any tips for traveling with infants during the holidays?

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lizette811

My daughter will be 11 months old, and we're going to visit my in-laws for a week between thanksgiving and christmas. We've flown with her before, so we're not completly unexperienced. But would love any tips anyone out there can give me on making this holiday journey easier on all of us! thanks!

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bring extra of EVERYTHING!!
we didnt bring enough when we went traveling and it was a big mistake, lost the only pacifier, spilled the cheerios, not enough toys to keep the baby entertained, but wipes are a big hand...bring lots of those they can be used for baby and yourself and also as toilet paper, as hand wipes, as a car cleaner...almost anything!

What was your favorite and most used gift from your baby shower?

Cmeyer

I am curious what your favorite gift was and most used gift that you received from your baby shower? My favorite gift was probably the baby carrier and my most used would have to be between a travel system stroller and baby swing. I am trying to figure out a gift to get my cousin whose pregnant. I already know that her parents are getting a lot of gifts she will need for the baby. I also am wondering what smaller gifts you liked receiving?

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Most practical was definitely an infant car seat from my friend. Cara grew out of it at about 7months, but I used it up until then and I'm definitely keeping it for #2. They are pretty expensive though, and you have to make sure that it's compatible with the car. This isn't small, but it was the most useful.

I have a baby blanket from when I was little, so it was sentimental receiving blankets. They're very basic, but useful and I appreciated them a lot. I got 17 of them though, so if you want to get your cousin something more unique, maybe you could monogram it.

Pacifiers, bottles, etc. all come in handy a lot, especially since Cara liked to throw her bottles to the floor and they would roll away somewhere we couldn't find them (until, of course, they started to smell...). Some good brands for these are Nuby, Graco, etc.

also, any type of organizer is great! I have a really cute one that I actually bought myself, it used to hold diapers and such now it holds bath toys, pull-ups and clothes.

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Toddler co-sleeping devices?

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Watermelon

My husband and I are looking for something that is big enough for a toddler to sleep in while in an adult bed. We're mainly wanting it for traveling so not to lug around a play pen. There's no guarantee she will want to sleep in a play pen either while in a strange hotel room and we think we will all get a better nights rest if she is in the bed with us. I would prefer some sort of a barrier between her and us to put me at ease of rolling over on her. Everything for co-sleeping that I've seen on the market is for infants but we want something for babies 1 year plus.

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Do you roll out of bed? Do you roll over on top of your husband? You're not going to roll on top of her. And even if you managed to get an arm or leg across her, she's plenty big enough by now to move and/or cry and let you know. There's no need for any sort of barrier.

Just get a king-size bed in the hotel room for all 3 of you, or get a room with 2 double/queen beds. One of you could sleep with her in one bed while the other adult sleeps by themvselves, or you two could sleep together with her in the other bed. If you're worried about her falling out of bed, call ahead and ask the hotel if they have any bed rails, or just plan to put pillows around her to help keep her contained.

If she's used to sleeping in a crib, you could request one at the hotel, and just try it out.

We've traveled plenty with my 3 kids (now ages 3, 6, and 7) and have used all sorts of arrangements.

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Any suggestions as to where to buy toys NOT made in China?

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Dewayne

Hello,
We've often thought of seeking out toys not made in China, and it would sure be nice (that is, easier) if there was a particular maker or store or website that sells such toys. Any suggestions?

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Products Made in USA
Made in USA Products
BuyAmerican.com
Justice Clothing
Still Made in USA
The Union Shop Online
The Union Mall
U.S. Stuff


Non-MIC Toy Stores StoryBoards
ImagePlay
U.S. Made Toys

Roy Toy Manufacturing, Maine, USA




Non-MIC Toy Brands Ajafield
Bear Creek Toys
Gardenkids
Kathy's Kreations
KNEX (construction sets)
Lauri
"POOF" (foam Products)
Smethport
Toys N Things
Turner Toys
Woodlinks

Non-MIC Toys Aaron's Balloon Animals
Amazen Marbles
Anadex Bead Roller Coaster
Antlantis
Bimini Ring Game
Berlin Flyer Wagons
Blues Clues Coloring Books
BoNZ Wooden 3D Dinosaurs
Breyer Horses
Briarpatch Games
Bubble Party
Bubble Tumbler
Bubble-Go-Around
Claytoon
Colorforms
Crayola Crayons
Creativity for Kids
Curiosity Kits
Dino Works
Easel Paper
Eye Witness Kits
Fabulous Fiddlestix
Fun Ride
Francis Family Toys
Great American Puzzle Factory Jig Saw Puzzles
Holdale Baby Bingo Bed
Holdale Big Wooden Beads
Hug-A-Planet
Lauri Travel Packs
Magic Cloth Toy Collection
Magic Science
Marshall Brodien Magic kits
Monster Puppets
Nature Net
Paint-A-Tyra-Dino and Wooden T-Rex kit
Perler Beads
Pipsqueak Playhouse
Playground balls
Play Doh (the original by Hasbro)
Radio Flyer wagons and vehicles. (not Flexible Flyer sleds)
Remo Brand Drums
Replogle Globes
Rock Tumbler
Sand Castle Creations, doll clothes from soggy Newport, Oregon
Scientific Explorer Kits
Sculpy Brand Clay
Simplex Play Board Wooden Puzzles
Slinky
Sportsfun Hi Walker Stilts
Sportsfun Hop-A-Roo Hoppy Ball
Sportsfun Scooteroo (skateboard/scooter)
Sportsfun Pogo-A-Roo (pogo stick)
State to State Game
Stomp rocket
Toobers and Zots
Tweber Backyard exploring gear, Children's nature products.
University Games
Visible Man or Woman Anatomy Models
Volcano Kit
Wild Goose Science Kits
Wild Wood of West Virginia (wooden figures on rockers)
Wonder Board Magnetic Set
WoodKrafter Kits

Non-MIC Shoes Vegatarian Shoes, UK

Any suggestions for traveling overseas with a baby?

Jack

We're taking a 2 week trip to Japan with a 6 month old. I'd love any advice on dealing with an infant on a long (12 hour) flight, or managing jetlag. Our daughter has been sleeping wonderfully through the night for 3 months now. I guess that will all change.

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Book bulkhead seats. (Assuming youâre flying economy.) These are seats that sit directly behind the bulkheads (dividers) on the plane, usually just behind business class. They offer a lot more legroom, and you usually get the option of booking a bassinet (see below). Plus your little one can crawl around a bit on the floor in front of you.
Book a bassinet. These attach to the bulkhead in front of the seat. Theyâre usually fairly small but your baby can lie with their legs over the end if necessary. Even if the baby doesnât sleep in it, it provides a great place to stash the 3 tons of stuff you end up with (books, magazines, blankets, pillows, food trays, water, toys, â¦)
Be aware of liquid restrictions for air travel. There are exceptions for baby food and so on, but you still need to stick within certain limits. Find out more information on this Australian site.
Take your own baby food on the flight. Your baby will prefer familiar food. Although many airlines offer baby food in-flight, your baby may not like whatâs available, and the food often has additives such as sugar and salt, too. Bananas are always a good standby when flying.
Give your baby something to drink after take-off and before landing. This will help with their ear pain as the pressure changes. Breastfeeding is great and has the added benefit of comforting. Water does the job too.
Have a stopover. If youâre flying from Australia to the UK, a stopover does help to break up the journey, but make sure itâs at least 2 nights or itâs not worth the hassle.
Be prepared for jet-lag. Itâs worse when you have a baby! You can forget about having those blissful few hoursâ sleep as soon as you arrive, as the little darling will have different ideas. Youâll be spending those first few hours trying to stop him or her bawling their head off. Also your baby will be waking up at 3am for the first few nights, thinking itâs the middle of the day. Very entertaining. The best strategy I can offer is: be prepared for this emotionally, and know that it will be OK after a few days.

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Can Miss Teen Contest organizers get adaptation of "Around the World in 80 Days" by Mark Brown?

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b4f2f

That would take the boredom out of geography study. Or look at the adaptation by Julianne Homokay-Ron Barnett. Board Game version of the same book/movie (Jackie Chan not the only one out there) is great and add high-speed trains and the Hawaii Superferry so that the island nations in the Pacific can be included! What do you think about this way to overcome the boredom of geography?
did an online search and Michael Rieneck designed that board game - contact him and get him to add the Hawaii Superferry of the one made by Derecktor Shipyards in CT...Bering Strait Tunnel has been suggested by several people - game board version is easy enough to do.

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One of the board games is from Kosmos, and maybe Toys-R-Us can get it. But I got a good idea (2nd one below) right here on YA for updating that game: Following in Jules Verne's footsteps, players (in one board game adaptation) wager on their ability to travel around the world in 80 days. Whoever makes it back to London with the greatest number of days left in his time bank is the winner. Two suggestions for an update:

1. Use of high-speed trains and high-speed ferries could make it Around the World in 8 Days, or just 18 days with still time to stop and talk to the locals.

2. The tunnel under the English Channel would be easily replicated by adding a dual train route to the travel options from England. Keep in mind that this will allow the potential for reduced travel time (by playing two identical train cards). If it becomes broken, you may need to rule that the reduction does not apply for the Chunnel Route. As for a Bering Tunnel (Yokohama to San Francisco), the best solution would seem to be a 3 train route (allowing for travel time reduction for 2 cards only). Maybe 2 train, 1 ship (train to Russia, train under the tunnel, boat to San Francisco)? By implementing these additions, you will make train travel cards considerably more valuable and desirable. That will have an impact on play strategy.
Maybe a YouTube person can take this on?

How is have a monkey cruel?

Alex

I watch this youtube channel where the kid has a pet monkey and it is always extremely happy and you can tell it literally loves the family

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frAFmnyD-k0&feature=relmfu
Skip to 2:25

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No - you can't "tell it literally loves the family". What on earth makes you think you are able to make that judgement?

IMonkeys are extremely social animals and being part of a social group is nearly as essential for their psychological well-being as having food or water or space to move around in. When people keep monkeys as pets, the monkeys are taken as infants from their mothers - years before they would naturally become independent. This is not just a little bit sad. It is scientifically proven that maternal deprivation can actually hinder proper brain development - and also that monkeys hand-reared by humans frequently (possibly always) develop severe psychological abnormalities that are sometimes impossible to correct in later life. No matter how much a person WANTS to be a good substitute for a monkey mother, it just does not work, and it has negative consequences for the monkey. Why would a person inflict that on another creature that they supposedly care about? It's really very selfish and yes - cruel.

Consistent, quality care is almost impossible for a pet owner to provide. Monkeys in the wild spend all day, every day travelling, climbing, leaping, foraging, grooming one another in a vast and complex tropical habitat. They need the right temperature, the right food, the right humidity, and without these things they can (and often do) develop serious health issues, like diabetes or metabolic bone disease. How is a person expected to provide all these things to a monkey living in their home?

Please don't believe the half-truths and full-on lies that people with an interest in keeping pet monkeys tend to spread around. They are all based on wilful ignorance, selfishness, and have nothing to do with genuine love of monkeys as amazing, intelligent wild animals. Monkeys deserve to have natural lives in the habitats that they have adapted to over thousands of years, and to make choices about their own lives. They are not little servants or dolls or toys, or even cats or dogs. Nobody wants to take any "rights" away from people concerning what they can or can not own - but monkeys are not THINGS that you should have a right to own! They are living, conscious, emotional wild animals. People need to learn how to respect this!

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