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sassy lass
My mom and dad divorced after 28 years - Dad was having an affair with his secretary. Mom divorced, Dad married secretary for 10 years, divorce, married his cleaning lady, married for 5 years, she divorced - her teenage daughter had infant shortly before divorce, my Dad decides to keep up relationship with toddler (has 6 grown children, 12 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild of his own), goes out of his way for this child (who is now 8), buys him any and everything he wants (4-wheeler, dune buggy, cell phone, laptop computer, etc.), has certificates of deposit in his name, has given him cattle/profits from cattle, brags constantly to his children and grandchildren about his relationship with him, how he would die if anything happened to him, travels an hour to pick him up in a moment's notice, etc., while all the while not making any kind of similar effort with his own children or grandchildren. We have all (6) children tried to make him understand our feelings.
But he gets angry and hangs up on us and constantly finds fault with his children and grandchildren. I try to explain that while we were young all his time was spent working and he can't take that back, but now he is retired and purposely chooses another over his own family and so continues neglecting his own for someone not even related and then rubs it in our faces. How would you feel, what would you do, and how would you approach this after many failed attempts. Cannot make him see how he continues to ignore his own children and grandchildren and sacrifice memories he could be making with them for memories he makes with a kid he is not related to at all.
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It sounds like you have a father by biology, but he's acted like an immature boy all these years. I would say good-bye and focus on the father surrogate models within my own family whom I respect (uncles? neighbors? church members? think about possibilities). He doesn't deserve you, and I hear you've given him ample opportunity to participate in the lives of kids he's already made - yet continues to neglect. Why he focuses on the boy? Can't really say. Maybe it's his, too. It's unfortunate for the boy, as I suspect your dad will someday drop him, too, and buying his love with things is going to damage a child in an already precarious situation. I'm always so sorry to hear about kids in your situation, even though you're an adult. The kid within continues to hurt. If you can't let go, a good author is Laura Schlessinger. She writes several books about the morality of families, and how to deal with family members who act immorally.
It sounds like you have a father by biology, but he's acted like an immature boy all these years. I would say good-bye and focus on the father surrogate models within my own family whom I respect (uncles? neighbors? church members? think about possibilities). He doesn't deserve you, and I hear you've given him ample opportunity to participate in the lives of kids he's already made - yet continues to neglect. Why he focuses on the boy? Can't really say. Maybe it's his, too. It's unfortunate for the boy, as I suspect your dad will someday drop him, too, and buying his love with things is going to damage a child in an already precarious situation. I'm always so sorry to hear about kids in your situation, even though you're an adult. The kid within continues to hurt. If you can't let go, a good author is Laura Schlessinger. She writes several books about the morality of families, and how to deal with family members who act immorally.
help on choosing a from birth pushchair?
red devil
when i have my son in may my daughter will be 2 and 4 mths, and she is a good walker so i have decided again a twin buggy of any kind as i find them bulky and awkward and don't think i will get enough use although i still may want her in a buggy.also i hate the ones where the baby lies underneath although i know they are more compact.
so im thinking a pushchair suitable from birth and a baby sling so she can still go in if needed.
but i want a rear facing pushchair suitable from birth but that i can put my daughter in easily without removing carseat seats or carrycots as no doubt i will be out and about when i need to make the change over.
i may not be making sense my brain is scrambled from looking at various pushchairs!!!! i do a lot of walking but still want it to be light and so i can attach a buggy board. any ideas would be great..oh and i have a very low budget but if i had an idea i have time to shop around!!
i have had travel systems b4 (too big and heavy with toddler too) and obviously strollers!! HELP!!!!!!!!!! please
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id get a free wheeler with large wheels they are great for walking, also for the toddler most good pushchair shops sell a bike that you can attach to the side of the pushchair its got 1 wheel and the 2 year old will love it, mine did. They are very safe have a seat belt and every thing
id get a free wheeler with large wheels they are great for walking, also for the toddler most good pushchair shops sell a bike that you can attach to the side of the pushchair its got 1 wheel and the 2 year old will love it, mine did. They are very safe have a seat belt and every thing
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